“Always choose yourself first.”
You have sensed a trend, if you have been reading my blog lately, that self-care is critical. Choosing yourself means focusing on your own happiness and navigating towards what adds positivity to your life without hesitance.
Some of us are excellent (or bad?) at simply dropping everything we need to get done (Work, Family, and training/exercise) to help others. Some would consider this a very noble act. We are always there for the ones in need. I’m GUILTY. Is this a good thing? I break it down into 3 things you need to do for yourself first.
Your health and wellness come first. Your well-being is directly connected to your success as a person. So, if you decide to ignore your well-being, for the benefit of others, your success will suffer. Give yourself a checklist of things you want to achieve first before tackling others' lists. Walking, meditating, and exercising are my GO TO’s first.
Rely on a team! Smart people are, by default, go-getters. They got this. I got this. I was so guilty of this when I first started the business. I would NEVER delegate. Listen to others. Ask or receive help. It can be very difficult to be in situations that reveal chinks in your armor. I was the guy who wore the “chinkless” armor vest. I realized that was a failed methodology. Be objective. There may be people that are SMARTER than you or have better ideas than you. Ahem, a coach that can give you advice on an injury or life/work balance. Let others help you so you can help others.
Self Efficacy. Alfred Banderra: “Self-efficacy is part of the self-system comprised of a person’s attitudes, abilities, and cognitive skills. This system plays a major role in how we perceive and respond to different situations. Self-efficacy is an essential part of this self-system. People with a strong sense of self-efficacy: (From Very Well)
Develop a deeper interest in the activities in which they participate
Form a stronger sense of commitment to their interests and activities
Recover quickly from setbacks and disappointments
View challenging problems as tasks to be mastered
If you can “believe in yourself” with a stronger sense of conviction, you can help others. It’s that simple. (Easier said than done, trust me)
Here’s a nice worksheet for you!
Tailwinds,
Chad